The REAL Secret

the real secret is to play in the right league

to set the bar at the right level

to have realistic expectations

to be in the game in order to be a good sport and to learn how to be a good sport

to remember that while winning is the goal,
it is not the most important goal

the most important thing is just to get to play
and to have fun, to have good time,
to be a good sport whether you win or lose